"Expats, Relocating Professionals, Accompanying Spouses.... A Few Simple Strategies Can Help You Create a Supportive Social Network and Create Fulfilling Friendships Anywhere in the World!"
Moving to a new place can bring up all sorts of positive and negative feelings. The number one challenge that expats, trailing spouses and domestic relocaters I've spoken to have is making new friends after moving. I even did my own survey about the biggest challenges that Expats confront and here's what Expats around the world had to say:
Difficulty with making new friends is also the number one reason people want to pack up and go home as soon as possible in failed relocations. Don't underestimate how important, or how challenging, this step is.
There are so many potential obstacles to creating new friends in a new place. Here are just a few to consider:
language differences
cultural misunderstandings
unfamiliar people
shyness
different values and backgrounds
Hi, I'm Heather Markel.
I've lived in many different places in my life and gone through the ups and downs of starting new friendships. I remember feeling like the TV was my only friend, and those nights where I badly wanted to talk to my best friend, but with a huge timezone difference between us, not wanting to wake her up at 3 in the morning just to complain.
I would meet people here and there but find myself even lonelier when I realized we had nothing in common apart from needing a friend or commiserating how alone we felt. Sometimes I'd talk to friends back home and found they were sympathetic but didn't really understand what I was going through, so I didn't always get the support I needed.
I'd be jealous when watching groups of friends laughing and spending time together while I sat alone eating my meal and wondering how I might find my own group of friends to socialize with.
Confronting my own loneliness and suffering, I started to use a bunch of strategies to meet new people and when I moved again, I realized that the same strategies were effective again in meeting great new people. I've also recreated my local social network time and time again wtih the same techniques because staying in one place for a while, I've had great friends move on with their lives and move to different places.
I've worked with many expatriates and have watched them go through the same things I did, and have been able to help them avoid all the challenges I did and make friends quickly, rather than flounder for months or even longer.
Though social networks are not created overnight , you can dramatically shorten how long it takes with a core set of strategies, and thus avoid periods of loneliness and isolation!
Nowadays when I meet someone who relocated five or ten years before, they all tell me, "I wish I knew you when I moved! It took me almost 3 years to feel really settled in, and I would have really valued being able to cut down how long that process was."
That's why I decided to write down the hurdles you need to overcome, the strategies to help you succeed, and the formula to success into an eBook where you have access to everything you need for your own social success!
If you're feeling overwhelmed, alone, and frustrated when it comes to making friends, you're not alone! It's a sad fact that many people become lonely and feel isolated after moving to new shores because they don't know anyone nearby, and they have no idea where to start looking for new friends. I've seen a lot of people fail to prepare for this core need before they move, and they end up so wrapped up in these feelings of loneliness and isolation that they simply lose all motivation to even try to connect.
Expats/Relocating Professionals and Trailing Spouses:
Are you moving far away from your current friends and family to a place you don't know anyone?
Do you feel frustrated trying to figure out which resources to use to meet new people?
Are you feeling lonely and isolated, or are you worried you will after relocating?
Are you baffled trying to figure out where to go to meet new people?
Do you assume you don't need to worry about making new friends since you can easily stay in touch with all the old ones via Facebook and the phone?
Are you disappointed because you can't seem to meet anyone like your friends back home?
Do you feel like you don't fit in, so it's not worth trying to make friends?
Have you "tried everything", found that nothing works, and feel like giving up?
Does it seem like the people you do meet have nothing in common with you?
Are you shy when it comes to meeting new people and having a tough time opening up to people or starting a conversation?
Trailing Spouses:
Are you feeling overwhelmed at your new responsibility of building a new social network for your family?
Are you feeling homesick because you miss the great friends and family you've left behind?
Do you feel unhappy and demotivated because you've given up so much for your family, all to start life over?
Do you want to give up on trying to meet anyone since no one compares to the best friends you moved away from?
Are you shy and unsure how to start a conversation?
Are you struggling to figure out which resources to use to meet new people?
Do you feel alone, like no one understands what you're going through, or that you even exist
Are you bored and lonely because your spouse works most of the time, leaving you alone to find friends, and someone with whom to share activities, and to confide in?
Click here for my FREE report explaining some of the major reasons you're having a tough time making new friends!
Even if you may be relocating "against your will", you will, ultimately, want to be surrounded with friends, and a local, supportive social network. As a trailing spouse, this step is even more important as you're more likely to have full days of nothing to do that can easily turn into depression if you have no one to spend those days with.
To fully integrate to a new place, and learn to feel at home, you will need to meet new people, form new friendships, and feel inspired to explore the world around you.
Just outside your door, there are wonderful, and fascinating people you'll have the opportunity to meet. All you have to do is know a few key strategies to get your social network started!
Think about how much you'd enjoy your life if you could look forward to seeing great friends every week, with whom you could appreciate new experiences, and also confide in when life throws you a tough situation.
Picture how happy you'd be if you no longer had to worry about feeling alone, or who to call for help or advice when you need it. Your address book is full of names and phone numbers and you're invited to social events, the movies, and parties so often that you actually have to turn some of the plans down!
The "Social Success Method " eBook offers you everything you need to get started, or to overcome your own challenges if you feel like you've "already tried everything and failed".
Perhaps you're shy and feel overwhelmed. You'll get some tips on how to take the first step, and strategies to start a conversation with someone you don't know, and the golden rule for talking to anyone!
Or maybe you feel that you just don't fit in and you'll never find anyone you like. For you, there are hints and techniques about handling expectations, exercises to help you get to the heart of what you really need, and once you do, you'll start the process with an entirely shifted perception, making it much easier to welcome new people into your life!
Or maybe you just have no idea where to even begin finding new friends or how to kick off the process. For you, there are a ton of ideas and resources to get you started, and tracking sheets so you can watch your progress as you go about creating a new social network.
Listen to What Others Have Said About the Social Success Method System And About Working with Heather!
Don't skip any of these steps when you move!
"Regarding The Social Success Method, I really liked the 7 Steps for Social Success and how they defined the process of adapting to a new culture in an easy-to-follow, step-by-step manner.
The lesson I learned is not to skip any of these steps any time I move. I say this because when we moved from New York to Lima, Peru, I thought it would be easy because I'm Latin American and Paraguayan and therefore believed that everything would be the same as in my country, but NO! Included in any similar culture, there are sub-cultures we must investigage and compare withour expectations to avoid the surprise of culture shock.
Thank you for your interesting material!"
Graciela Bareiro. Lima, Peru
"If you're looking to expand your network as you relocate, you could not pick a better person."
"Heather's coaching is great! She has an enthusiastic approach that makes me feel energized and happy during our sessions together. Coming away from the sessions, I have received valuable insights and tools which are helping me to step into the vision I have of myself. Thank you Heather!"
A high-level summary of the 7 essential steps you can easily implement, right now, to start making new friends after moving. Benefit - you get a quick reference guide to the essential strategies you'll learn in the eBook.
The "Social Success Method " eBook
To dive into the Social Success Method concepts, the eBook will tell you everything you need to know about challenges to expect, how to overcome them, and what resources you can use to create a social network from scratch. You'll learn:
what's holding you back from meeting new people
the challenges you need to be aware of when trying to make new friends
some core strategies to help you begin to create a new social network
tips for those of you who may be shy when it comes to talking to new people
resources and ideas on where to meet new people
The Social Success Method Action Guide
A companion to the Social Success Method eBook.Benefit - the Action Guide will help you delve into what's holding you back from success, and allow you to track your progress as you develop your skills
Conversation Starter Cheat-Sheet
Especially for those of you that are shy, this is a great reference to the tips you'll learn in the eBook about starting conversations with just about anyone, anywhere. Benefit - have a handy reference to help you remember how easy it is to start a conversation!
Look, I'm a business owner and I pride myself on your satisfaction above all else. Even though I have poured my heart and soul into the information I'm giving you, I realize "seeing is believing". My goal is to help you enrich your life, and the best way for you to decide if this information is right for you is to check it out for yourself. I want you to feel that these products are of value to you, and to be completely satisfied with the content, and strategies.
So, to allow you to make the best decision possible, take 30 days, read through the materials, and if you don't feel you can use them, or that they will help you make new friends, simply email me for a complete refund.
To order the "Social Success Method " eBook and Action Guide just click the button below
To your success,
Heather Markel
Culture Transition Specialist
P.S. Remember that, for a limited time, your purchase makes you eligible for a free Social Success Strategy session, worth over $200! ONLY 3 PLACES LEFT!!! We'll look at the areas you want to improve, what that will mean for you, and create an action plan to help you make new friends and create a new social network.
P.P.S. Your purchase of the Social Success Method eBook will help you learn invaluable techniques and resources to make new friends, create a social network from scratch, and be able to track your accomplishments with the included action guide.
P.P.P.S. The cheat-sheets will help you easily reference everything you learn for a quick reminder of everything you need to achieve social success anywhere in the world!
P.P.P.P.S. Don't forget the MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE! There is absolutely no risk to you to try out these strategies, except to start feeling happy and be surrounded by great new friends!
The "7 Steps to Social Success Formula"